success

what is success, we never know the true meaning of the words... english is a crazy language as we used to read this. sometimes when you loose something even at that time you might have won something, i mean, you might have conquer something. lets be clear through an example, we weep, why? - because we are in pain? because we just lost something valueable or someone of great value of closeness to us? due to the reason that we won something?
i don't know the exact answer, do you have a particular answer for this tear.. ya ya tears are conditional. also success is conditional. that is why even when sometimes you loose something then also you feel that you have conquered over your opponent. if you are a capable candidate for a job, but there are no vacancies in countries like nepal then how would you feel. how bitter will your life be if the subject you are studying is rare in the world and the subject is of great importance. and of course you are among the toppers in your college. was being the topper a success then?
when the friends who are just pass in their exams and are of good family background get jobs due to the family relationship or other causes how successful do you consider yourself. i couldn't find the answers to these questions, can you?????